Approaching the opposite sex Part 2.

So now you understand the first part of how it works I want to show you a foolproof way of minimizing rejection and getting to first base. This technique works for both men and women as it is so non threatening. When I was single this simple technique worked a treat and meant I never wasted time on people who weren’t attracted to me. Here it is: if I saw a woman who I found attractive and I got eye contact with I would simply smile. If they smiled back positively I would go over to see her.

If I got no smile back or even a half-hearted smile I did nothing and didn’t waste my time by trying to chat her up. I didn’t embarrass myself by smiling, as it is a nice thing to do. If I had gone over after receiving no smile I would have been doomed. By using this smiling method I have lost nothing and the worst I am perceived as just a friendly guy. I risked nothing. 

A smile can tell you a lot about if somebody likes you or not. Of course you need the confidence to go over after the smile but be yourself and things should go your way. Forget about corny chat up lines, I used to go over completely unrehearsed and just see what popped out of my mouth!

I also know that not everybody who smiles at you fancies you but you stand a far greater chance of success if you use this method rather than just going over blindly. When I got the smile I would go over and say something like “Hi I’m Steve how are you doing” and see how it went from there!

What you say after this is your business as if I told you what to say after this it would be too rehearsed wouldn’t it. Just be yourself, don’t pretend to be anything your not as you will soon get found out if you do so just be yourself and see how things go.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself too and don’t tell them all of your dirty secrets also. I find people all to often try to tell people their life history and that it can frighten them away. Just keep it light. If it doesn’t go any further so what, what have you lost? At least you tried, if you didn’t you’d be thinking all night about what could have happened!

So there you have it. Don’t be put off by the simplicity of the smiling method it really works! If you need to fine tune your self-confidence to do this, get a copy of my book The Principles of Life, which is available on this site.

Good luck

Steve