Approaching the opposite sex Part 1.

One of the things people suffer from all the time is the inability to talk or make an approach to the opposite sex. This indecisiveness usually ends up in somebody else getting the girl (or guy), which is frustrating. So why do we hesitate? Well usually it’s the fear of failure or rejection. These fears can immobilize us and the more we think about the thought of rejection the more we talk ourselves out of it. We see somebody and then think “He’s nice” but then we mentally talk ourselves out of it by creating scenarios of rejection or making an utter fool of ourselves in our minds, which is ridiculous.

So what I am going to do here is give you a foolproof approach to minimize possible rejection when approaching the opposite sex.

In this first part I need you to understand that if they say no to your advances that they are not saying no to you personally. If they don’t  know you but they say no to your advances then they are saying no to your TYPE and not you. This goes for people who know you too. What does that mean? Well I’m sure you have a type of person you are more attracted to don’t you? Yes of course you do.

So when people say no to you they are saying no to your type and not to you. It’s not that you are ugly or something like that it is merely that you don’t fit into their taste category. I found out a long time ago that you can’t be everybody’s cup of tea and its true. Not every woman likes George Clooney and not every man likes Cindy Crawford but does that make them unattractive? Of course not it’s just our own personal taste. The same applies to you. Years ago when I was single I would feel down if a woman rejected me until it finally dawned on me. I like a certain type so why not them. I see many good looking women every day but not all of them “rock my boat” but to some guys they would.

The key to success is not to take things so personally! If they don’t like your type so what, its just the way it is. Don’t moan to yourself about it, understand the reality of it and move on to the next person.

Good luck

Steve